Why moaning during sex is such a good thing?
Hello, stronger orgasms!
When you think of moaning during sex, you might envision an Oscar-worthy performance à la When Harry Met Sally!
Or maybe you think of the other night when you let slip a little noise mid-romp that actually made the moment so much hotter for the both of you?
Moaning during sex is basically a power-up in the bedroom. One breathless peep or guttural grunt typically serves as a nonverbal cue that things are going *great*, thanks. Letting out those hot and heavy noises can even point to more satisfying sex, according to a study published by the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
Still, the thought of adding a few moans to your romps can be stressful if you haven't done it before. We get I - the last thing you want is to sound like a stereotypical adult film star trying to act like she’s actually turned on. And for some (especially those with roommates), the worry you might moaning during sex might kill those orgasmic moments.
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But don't sweat it... we have everything you need to know about moaning during sex from a great article from Women's Health Magazine.
Why do people moan during sex, anyway?
It’s pretty simple: We’re turned on!
Women moan during sex to communicate to their partners they’re enjoying what they are doing.
Think of it as a nudge in the right direction, a pleasure-filled response that a partner is doing all of the right things. And let’s be real: It’s often totally out of our control as it's an involuntary response to all that physical exertion. People don’t compare tennis grunts to sex moans for no reason, after all.
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How can moaning make my sex life even hotter?
Some research says the deeper you are into the sexual experience, the less inhibited you are and your own sounds enhance your own arousal. The best sex is freeing, and moaning when the urge comes to you helps release your inhibitions (try shout out Natasha Bedingfield) so you can be totally immersed in pleasure.
Letting out a few oooooh's can even make your 'O' bigger and better... even when you're enjoying some self-love masturbation.
When a woman moans during sex, her throat opens, her breathing slows, and her pelvic floor muscles relax, which can lead to a mind-blowing orgasm.
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Do I have to moan?
If it’s not your thing, no big deal. There are people who are silent during sex and who don’t want to make a noise... and that is completely fine. Noise helps some people turn on and experience pleasure, and for other people, it gets in the way. Sometimes a loud moan (or a scream even) fits the mood, and sometimes you’d rather enjoy it quietly. Just do what feels good for you!
Ok, I want to try moaning now. How do I start?
Honestly, a good starting point is to try it on your own. So, skip the porn moaning research and go right for a test run yourself. Next time you masturbate, let yourself moan. Start with taking deep belly breaths and letting it out slowly with a sigh punctuating your breath. See if it enhances the experience. If it feels good, then it’s worth a try when someone else is in the mix.
If you’re still unsure, bring it up with your partner first. Suggest that you want to try making noises. It’ll be fun for you and fun for them. A win-win for you both!
Is there a right way to moan?
If you’re sitting there thinking, ‘Is this a good moan? Is it loud enough? Too loud?’ You are not having the kind of moan that’s going to enhance your arousal.
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This is not the time to overthink. When you’re stuck in your head or critiquing your every move, it will take you right out of the moment. And trust us, there’s no fun in that. Or orgasms. Instead, take a deep breath (or two), lean into the moment, and let your body and mouth do what it wants naturally. Just have fun!
I'm an unashamed moaner. Can I be even sexier?
Again, whatever noise spills out is bound to turn you both on. If you want to be specific, use your breathing as the lead in your moaning. On the exhale, let your voice come out just a little. Think about sending your breath and your moan down to your pelvis. It'll kind of feels like a meditative exercise or tantric sex.
When in doubt, just let yourself go. The deeper you are in the sexual experience, the less inhibited your sounds will be and the sexier you'll become.
Never fake an orgasm!
Girl, don’t do it. Even if you’re guilty of it in the past, faking it won’t help your sex life. Moans can be positive reinforcement and give your partner a boost of confidence, but faking it sends a mixed signal. By faking, we are teaching our partners to do exactly what doesn’t work for us. And you and your partner need to be on the same page sexually! That’s worth moaning about.
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You can read the original article & others at Womenshealthmag.com
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